How To Speak Up For Yourself…
A 3 Step Plan To Speak Your Truth – Even If Your Voice Shakes
Tova Payne | Collective Evolution
Most of my life I was afraid to speak up. As a kid I was often told to be quiet, and quiet I did become. I kept my opinions to myself and remained quiet enough to ensure I wouldn’t ruffle any feathers.
Saying my throat was blocked is an understatement. And in 2005 when I first picked up Caroline Myss’ book Anatomy of the Spirit, I knew my throat chakra was the weakest link in my energetic anatomy. So I started working on it through affirmations. I started practicing speaking up for myself.
With my newfound awareness I knew that I had the power within to strengthen my ability to speak my truth and to allow that truth to emerge in all areas of my life—especially in my creative pursuits.
Speaking your truth happens by paying attention to the voice of your heart and intuition, and allowing that truth to be spoken.
Speaking the truth is integral to leading a happy life that’s honest and fulfilling. It’s also essential for any creative work you want to bring into the world: from how you show up at work—daring to share your opinions and artistic flair—to the colors you choose to decorate your home or wardrobe, creativity permeates every corner of our lives.
You see—in creative work you can do what you really want or do what you think you’re supposed to do.
One choice will give you inner freedom; the other will leave you with a slight undertone of suffocation.
The more you suffocate your voice, the harder it is to breathe. And once you stop breathing (creatively), your work and life lose their shine.
It’s not worth it.
This quote from Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic (which I recommend for any creative, or anyone who’s curious about living a more interesting life) sums it up eloquently:
“Be careful of your dignity, is what I am saying. It is not always your friend.”
If dignity is a mask—I’d rather not put one on. And although I feel this way—it doesn’t mean it’s always easy.
As humans, we have a basic need for love and acceptance. From a spiritual perspective—love and acceptance come from within—irrelevant of what others think.
But we are not spiritual robots. We’re people.
That means we’re bound to have moments of caring what other people think about us—even if our brain knows we shouldn’t.
At some point or another fear trickles through our veins, and the thought of criticism or actual criticism—can lead us to quiet down, wanting to hide, or mask our true voice.
And that’s why it’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling like you have to be dignified—proper, follow the rules of decorum, and keep it quiet enough that you don’t ruffle any feathers.
But when you only speak through the filter of the dignified voice, you lose your voice.
Our true voice is the undignified voice. It’s undignified because it’s not trying to seek approval of others. It just is. It’s raw, pure, and true. It doesn’t aim to READ MORE: http://www.collective-evolution.com/2016/02/20/a-3-step-plan-to-speak-your-truth-even-if-your-voice-shakes/