On Sincere Forgiveness…

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How to Give (And Forgive) From the Heart

Tamara Rant | Conscious Life News

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I feel like writing about this topic is long overdue. For the majority of my life, I was a “yes” person. I would offer to help people whether I actually could or not. And I’d torture myself with guilt and shame if and when I often couldn’t actually help at all. Oh, the stories we tell ourselves! ?

Somewhere along the way, I had learned that good people give, no matter what. Not the healthiest belief…but I also had also formed the belief that giving feels good when you’re coming from your heart. Better. And so it became like a personal challenge for me almost to try and help whomever by however means I could. But the problem was that giving wasn’t feeling good and in fact I was starting to resent the people I had assisted.

Eventually, as I looked less out into the world for validation and more within my own being…I began to see myself in any and everyone hurting; suffering in some way. I was in full resonance with the energy of compassion and empathy. And then I knew instantaneously that the chaos I see in the world is part of a re-balancing process. And this process is repeated in each and every one of our own lives. From our deepest wounds comes our greatest strength. And with this knowing and new-found insight, I was no longer afraid. I really knew for the first time in my life that not only was I going to be okay, but that everything is going to be okay…

I have always been the type of person to self-analyze and soul-search, but this fresh insight was deep and rang Truth to my core. And so began my journey to understand this elusive joy of giving from the heart. And why I wasn’t “feeling it”. Years went by before I realized that the people I was attracting over and over were not out to get one over on me or always necessarily taking advantage; they were simply accepting an offer I had made. They were reflecting back to me every single time, my own insecurities and feelings of unworthiness; in the form of promises I almost always knew I would fail to deliver.

See, in my mind, my ego was running the show and had convinced me somehow that my love had the ability to change people into better people. And you know in some relationships it absolutely did, but never the ones where that was my intention to always “fix” people. This lead to me attracting the so-called ‘broken souls’ who always hurt people they got close to, because someone at some point really hurt them.

This is not to condone any kind of abuse, but on some level I now have a deep understanding of the suffering I’ve taken on whether induced by myself or others. And to obtain personal insight…I asked why… and on a soul level I knew I had agreed to get into relationships with people who would eventually teach me to love myself, to respect myself and to stand in my Truth at all times. And that’s exactly what they’ve done…

This way of looking at it is what has allowed me to heal past wounds and forgive myself for staying in such a toxic environments for so long. It also has allowed me to forgive those who have hurt me; not necessarily because they deserve it, but because I deserve to be free of the attachment. This was perhaps my first lesson in what true giving was because it was READ MORE: http://consciouslifenews.com/give-forgive-heart/11120038/

Natalia PH

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