Can unhappiness be avoided by changing your attitude…?
8 Negative Attitudes of Chronically Unhappy People
Preston Ni | PsychologyToday.com
The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”
― John Milton, Paradise Lost
“Almost all painful feelings have their source in an incorrect way of looking at reality. When you uproot erroneous views, suffering ceases.”
— The Buddha, as written by Thich Nhat Hanh
All of us experience negative thoughts from time to time. How we manage our negative attitudes can make the difference between confidence versus fear, hope versus despair, mastery versus victimhood, and victory versus defeat.
Multiple studies have revealed how chronic negative attitudes can adversely affect one’s health, happiness and well-being (1)(2)(3). Below are eight common negative thoughts of unhappy people, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Emotions (link is external).”
1. Self-Defeating Talk
Self-defeating talk are messages we send to ourselves which reduce our confidence, diminish our performance, lower our potential, and ultimately sabotage our success. Common self-defeating talk includes sentence beginnings such as:
“I’m not good enough…”
“I’m not confident …”
“I don’t have what it takes…”
“I’m going to fail…”
Would you like it if a friend tells you repeatedly that “you can’t succeed,” “you’re not good enough,” “you lack confidence,” “you don’t have what it takes,” or “you’re going to fail?” Would you consider this person a real friend? If not, why would you want to talk or think this way to yourself? Engaging in habitual self-defeating talk is like having a false friend who puts you down all day long. You become your worst enemy and READ MORE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201502/8-negative-attitudes-chronically-unhappy-people