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Social Anxiety 101: How To Overcome Fear Of Social Interactions
Steven Bancarz | Spirit Science
We all know what it feels like to be nervous to speak in front of a room of people. This is a very normal human response. But there of some of you reading this who are like me who know what it’s like to be nervous to make eye contact with someone, let alone have a conversation with them.
It’s normal to feel too scared about going to a party by yourself, but for some of you it’s normal to feel too scared to want to go out at all. Social anxiety comes in varying degrees for different people, but it’s something we all experience at some point or another.
There is a lot of feel-good motivational content out there that is designed to boost your confidence and fill your head with positive thoughts to help deal with anxiety, but from personal experience I have learned it is best to dissect and take a deep look into what causes anxiety to arise within any given moment.
Once you identify the causes, you can begin to work towards solutions.
It’s important for you to realized that your social anxiety is not your fault. You aren’t “crazy” or “too shy”. It’s literally your brain doing you a favour. The job of social anxiety is to protect you from pain and suffering. It serves as a defense mechanism against potential threats, and it has been put in place by your brain to prevent a re-occurrence of something that happened in your past.
So when we are talking about curing social anxiety, we are literally talking about hacking your own brain and rewiring it to associate social interactions with a new response. Here are some really practical ways to deal with social anxiety.
1) Stop caring what other people think
The following sentence may be the most important and freeing sentence you will ever hear: It doesn’t matter what people think of you. Period.
Live your life in sincerity, authenticity, and in integrity. Don’t worry about what a group of people at school think of you, what your teachers may think of you, or even what your family may think of you. If you are not trying to make an impression, appease someone, or live up to someone’s expectations, than you can truly be yourself in a moment.
When you allow yourself to truly be yourself in a moment without depending on the approval of people around you, you are free.
Don’t source your happiness from the thoughts running through the minds of people around you. Source it from within yourself. You don’t need your peers to revere you highly in order for you to be worth something. Don’t try to impress, live up to expectations, or fit in. Don’t try at all. Just be you.
2) Stop thinking. Become present.
Take three deep breaths right now. Inhale….Exhale. Now two more times. Physiologically speaking, your blood pressure just lowered itself, your brain waves stabalized, your heart rate slowed down, and your body received more oxygen. This all means that your adrenal glands stopped producing stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol, which means your nervous system is now in a state of harmony with itself. The point is, when you take your attention away from the thought patterns racing through your READ MORE: http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/social-anxiety-101-how-to-overcome-fear-of-social-interactions/#sthash.3PnwHFGt.dpuf