Not Living Your Best Life? Discover How to Build Self-Confidence and Realize Your Goals…
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What is the secret to succeeding in life, what separated winners from losers? These eternal questions have been asked over and over again by people living in different cultures, circumstances and the search brought some common answers.
Here is a great article written by coach and author Zorka Hereford that gives some solid answers. Confidence is one of the key skills required to build sustainable success and live a happy, healthy life. Healthy confidence is necessary to create the best life you can live and here is how to build it…
How To Build Self-Confidence
Zorka Hereford | Essential Life Skills. Net
When I was in my late teens a friend of mine, an elite athlete, gave me the most profound, yet simple advice that changed the way I would view myself forever. He told me:
“If you don’t think very highly of yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to think it of you.”
Translation – It means that we alone are responsible for building self-confidence. We cannot depend upon, or wait for anyone else’s approval. We must see ourselves as worthy and capable of achieving anything we choose to achieve.
Ultimately, how we see ourselves is more important than how anyone else sees us.
If we don’t work at loving and accepting ourselves, nothing anyone else thinks matters.
In a similar vein, have you ever felt that you don’t measure up to others overall? In that case, think about how many times you may have met a gorgeous man or woman and then afterwards forgot how good looking they were because they had nothing interesting to say or could add nothing of value to your perspective. I would think it happens more often than not!
Consider that in an opinion poll done by Men’s Health Magazine (1,000 American women ages 21 to 54 in two online polls) women rated traits relating to character and personality much higher than they scored those reflecting physical attractiveness.
In other online questionnaires filled out by both men and women the number one quality found desirable in someone was ‘self-confidence’. Physical attractiveness didn’t even make the top 10!
The bottom line is that what you think of, and how you project yourself, is more important than merely having good looks. Building self-confidence is not only a great way to attract others, but a great way to feel good about yourself!
Tips For Building Self-Confidence
Acknowledge Your Uniqueness.
Believe in yourself and know that you are one of a kind. In the words of Walt Whitman know:
“That you are here–that life exists, and identity;
That the powerful play goes on, and you will contribute a verse.”
There is no one else like you on this planet. No one looks like you, has the same talents, experiences, or perspective as you do. You are
unique and are therefore here to make your unique contribution. If we each focus on what we bring into the world to share, there can be no comparisons, envy or regret. We are here to “contribute a verse”.
Give it Your Best.
When you do the best you can, with the best of what you’ve got, you can’t help but feel good about yourself and that
confidence comes through in everything that you do. Giving it your best makes you unafraid to take risks or step out of your
comfort zone – both great confidence-builders.
Everybody has setbacks and obstacles to contend with. Don’t let them undermine your confidence. Treat them as opportunities to strengthen your resolve and then persevere.
See Article: The Power of Persistence
Overcoming adversity builds and strengthens self-confidence. The greatest songs, works of art and literary pieces have been written by those who have experienced the depths of despair, loss and emptiness and overcame them. Experiencing sadness and loss, and then rising above them, gives rise to hope and triumph. It makes you stretch and become more than you were.
Set goals for yourself and then push yourself to reach them. Self-confidence soars when you know you can do what you put your mind to. It makes you feel READ MORE at: http://www.essentiallifeskills.net/buildself-confidence.html